If you ever end up dating someone who considers it weak for a man to express emotions, brace yourself for the following things.
Getting involved with someone, especially with the intent of going all the way, should be a no-holds-barred affair.
So ideally there should be no such thing as suppressed feelings and unexpressed emotions.
However, for some men, especially the
inexpressive ones [aka hard Guys], this is a real issue they can't shake
off. Whether as a control mechanism, a defense strategy or just out of
plain cluelessness, many men have been tagged as creatures who hold back
emotions and refuse to truly assess and express the romantic feelings
they have at several times, including times when they have partners.
If you ever find yourself dating such a 'hard guy', here are the pits you should be ready to encounter in such relationship:
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1. Confusion
One the problems you will experience dating a
man who is inexpressive and finds it difficult to express himself is
confusion, misunderstandings and constant misconstruing of his
intentions.
In a situation, you might think something
while your partner has something else in mind other than what they are
really feeling about the situation. This always leads to
misunderstandings and too many avoidable fights that can ruin a healthy
relationship.
2. Feeling unappreciated
Women have a reputation for being
easily-swayed by words, especially if they already like you. Words,
especially complimentary ones, are also useful in keeping a woman
feeling treasured, appreciated and desired
Now imagine having a guy who never gasses you
up in any way, rarely assuages your doubts or reassure you of his
undying affection for you – kinda tragic, yeah?
3. Someone else
When you get pissed with your inexpressive guy over his constant failure to express feelings or dish out validation, you may start finding solace in something else. It could even be another human being.
If someone else starts filling the gap, you will
gradually getting far away from your partner. And when this happens, the
end of that relationship becomes visible in the horizon.
4. Communication suffers
Many women love to talk and express the things
they're feeling. If your partner is not expressive, you will lack
communication in cases where you actually should open up.
Communication suffers when one partner pushes
and the other pulls. In other words, when a partner tries to initiate
and the other doesn't reciprocate or does it poorly all the times, it's
surely a problem.
5. Boring relationship
If someone likes forming inexpressive hard guy
even with you his girlfriend, it is very likely that your relationship
with him will be boring. We already mentioned here how fun it is when
both partners have an insane sense of humour and can both give and take
jokes.
We don't think that will apply much in your relationship if your boyfriend is inexpressive.
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