Why you may be better off avoiding a rebound relationship than seeking it.
When someone newly gets out of a relationship
and decides to get into another one either because they don't know how
to be alone, or because they don't want to, such relationship is known
as a rebound.
When heartbreak happens, it is often better to give one’s self the chance to heal and come to terms with what has happened.
Getting straight into another relationship just after one ended isn’t always a good idea.
So you know what rebound relationship means,
and that it's usually a bad idea, but that’s not all there is to this
kind of relationship.
Below, we list five more things you should know about this, and why you MAY be better off avoiding it than seeking it.
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1. Unresolved baggage
Rebound relationships can begin with a lot of
baggage that is left over from the previous relationship. That's why it
hardly lasts, or end well. Too many unresolved issues from the previous
relationship is carried over and could spill into the new relationship
in toxic, poisonous ways.
2. It is always about the ex. Not about you or your new partner.
It is always about that former partner to whom
you want to prove that you are lovable, or that you have moved on. And
when you do this, you are still letting that ex live in your head
rent-free. You should not be in a relationship to prove a point to your
ex. To do this is just disrespectful, unfair and emotionally abusive to
the new person.
3. Could be fun
Rebound 'relationships' could be fun though.
Especially if both partners know that it is nothing serious, and try to
enjoy each other’s company while it lasts.
In this sense, it is more of an experiment
than a relationship in the sense of it; more like a 'friends with
benefits' situation. Provided that both partner know what they are
getting into.
4. Could be source of distraction
It could be the perfect transitional period
for a heartbroken person. Instead of being alone and suffering the pain
of the heartbreak all by yourself; you could lessen the pain by having
someone to do ‘relationship things’ with.
5. They are often temporary
Where one of the partners realizes later that
he/she has only been used as a rebound from a relationship, it could
lead to another breakup.
One is then forced to ask; what, then, is the point of the rebound relationship?
Rebound relationships are more damaging than
therapeutic. It is better to let yourself feel the pain, loneliness and
emptiness and then move on from that point, knowing you have shed
yourself of all negative emotions and your next-step is actually "moving
on."
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