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When the
party is over, and you drive away with a "Just Married" sign slapped
on the back of your car, you find yourself journeying into the most beautiful,
exciting, heartwrenching and complicated adventure you've ever had in your
life.Unfortunately, there is no comprehensive marriage manual with all the answers. However, there are plenty of people who have successfully navigated through 1-50 years of marriage who have a wealth of wisdom.
As a young, married woman, I love talking with couples who have happy, strong marriages. I want to know what they did to build a solid foundation. I want to know how I can build a relationship that will last forever.
I asked 85 women on social media what the best marriage advice they ever received is, and this is what they shared:
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Ø Don't compare your marriage to other marriages.
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Ø Marriage isn't about thinking alike, but learning to
think well together.
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Ø Communicate via voice, video and physical contact.
Cut back on messaging. Your prime communication method should not be texting.
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Ø Ask your spouse, "What can I do for you
today?" every single day.
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Ø Show your spouse appreciation for the little things.
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Ø Kiss each other goodnight, every single night.
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Ø Only flirt with your spouse. But do it well, and do
it often.
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Ø "Thou shalt not nag."
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Ø Never lose your sense of humor.
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Ø Talk openly about finances, goals and dreams.
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Ø Your husband isn't a mind reader.
Tell him what you want.
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Ø Don't make him guess.
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Ø Fight naked.
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Ø Look beyond yourself at the bigger picture. Where do
you want your family to be in 20 years?
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Ø Marriage takes three people: you, your spouse and
God. Don't leave any one of those people out.
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Ø Put your marriage and spouse before your children.
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Ø Say, "I love you," every single day.
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Ø Treat your spouse like the person he or she has the
potential to be.
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Ø H.A.L.T.: If you are hungry, angry, lonely or tired,
stop the discussion and fix those things first.
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Ø Don't expect your spouse to do something around the
house unless you ask him or her to do it. Assuming always causes problems.
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Ø Remember, you can't change your spouse. You can only
change yourself.
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Ø Keep dating each other.
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Ø Pray together every single day. Tell God about all
the reasons why you love your spouse.
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Ø Don't search for the perfect person. Be the perfect
person.
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Ø Marriage is not 50/50. It's 100/100. Give yourself
entirely, and don't hold back.
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Ø Let go of expectations.
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Ø Keep your married life between you and your spouse.
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Ø Genuinely compliment your spouse on a regular basis.
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Ø Say, "thank you" to your spouse often.
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Ø Be slow to criticize. Love your spouse despite his
or her faults, and he or she will do the same for you.
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Ø Never lose faith, and never give up on God.
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Ø Brag about your spouse to your friends -- when he or
she is listening and when he or she isn't.
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Ø Communication, communication, communication!
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Ø Don't just marry someone you can live with. Marry
the person that you can't live without.
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Ø Build a strong foundation, so when things get bad,
you have something to fall back on.
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Ø Work hard and be ambitious.
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Ø Never criticize your spouse's family.
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Ø Keep a united front, especially with your children.
Never pit your kids against your spouse.
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Ø Remember that you chose your spouse for forever.
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Ø If something in your relationship is broken, don't
throw it away; fix it.
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Ø Don't make mountains out of mole hills. Don't waste
your time fighting over little things. It's not worth it. Let small things go.
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Always be
kind. Kindness goes a long way.
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Take the
time to serve one another, no matter how tired or worn out you may be. Those
little acts make a huge difference.
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